Patricia Schell Kuhlman
Gregory A. Kuhlman, Ph.D.
Marriage Success Training premarital education seminars
Phones: 866-704-6565 or 718-951-4794 (Mon - Thurs), 866-704-6561 (Fri - Sun)
April 30, 2005
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Jennifer Wilbanks: The lessons for couples about premarital cold feet
(New York, NY) - When CNN called on us this morning as premarital educators and originators of Marriage Success Training seminars to explain the feelings behind cold feet to their audience, we thought of another young woman who handled her similar feelings this week in a more constructive way: After her first big fight with her fiance, she did a quick Google search, learned about cold feet on stayhitched.com, discussed her concerns with us and registered for our premarital seminar. Unbeknownst to her, her fiance shared many of her concerns and was relieved to have her suggest a positive approach to resolving the issue.
Jennifer Wilbanks experienced 'cold feet' before her wedding like so many other brides (and grooms). And like them, she didn't know how to handle this normal premarital reaction. Even though Jennifer had a religious advisor, brides often feel embarrassed about bringing up these feelings in their premarital counseling session. Premarital education provides the communication skills and a more normalized experience for learning about and exploring sensitive issues.
Many premarital couples become preoccupied with perfecting their wedding and honeymoon plans without pausing to build the foundation for their marriage by acquiring the knowledge and skills to help them understand and cope with cold feet and the other, sometimes overwhelming, emotional reactions that can go with getting married.
Simply understanding how normal wedding doubts are, goes a long way to diffusing the isolation, secrecy and shame about cold feet that may lead to impulsive reactions like those of Jennifer Wilbanks. Without premarital education as a foundation, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by stress and pressures.
Marriage Success Training is aimed at helping couples to prepare
for enduring, satisfying marriages. MST premarital education seminars are
based on the latest marriage research about what makes marriages succeed and
fail. Couples who have participated in the one-day MST seminar have been enthusiastic,
describing it as “essential,” “enlightening,” “easy to relate to and highly
Developed and led by Patricia Schell Kuhlman and Gregory A. Kuhlman, Ph.D., a married professional couple, MST is a religion-neutral alternative to more traditional premarital preparation, such as premarital counseling or programs offered by religious institutions. Couples learn to communicate more effectively and resolve conflicts in a healthy way, as well as how to protect their relationship from being undermined by the normal interpersonal differences and stress that eventually surface in any relationship.
The MST web site-stayhitched.com-provides a wealth of free premarital and marriage information, in addition to details about the seminar program.
For more information on our background and program, see stayhitched.com.
MST, offered in New York City, Chicago, Boston, Washington,
DC, is one of many excellent premarital preparation programs throughout the
US. smartmarriages.com is a national clearinghouse for marriage education
information and programs.