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Pre-Wedding Time Management


As you've no doubt discovered, managing your time is very challenging during the pre-wedding period. There are a million things to do (on top of the demand of your normal life!).


Time management is a means of asserting greater control over your use of time and energy, rather than allowing tasks and demands to control you. It's a given that you'll never be able to do everything that you think you should. By using time management techniques, you ensure that the activities that you don't do are those of your choice--your lowest priorities.


Time management uses two primary tools:


·        Lists of activities and tasks; and

·        Schedules


These tools allow you to analyze, understand, organize and prioritize your use of time--not to make you a schedule and task slave, but to make you the master of your time.




Lists are a key tool in effective time and task management. People without lists are often plagued by worry over whether they've remembered all their important tasks. You can't possibly hold everything in your head, and you'll drive yourself crazy if you try.


Make lists of everything you need to get done. Take advantage of the many prepared wedding planning check lists available on bridal resource sites like the Knot and the Weddingchannel. The most effective time managers have multiple lists: a list of work tasks, a list of wedding tasks, a list for social activities, a list for today, a list for tomorrow, a list for next week, a list for someday... You get the idea.


Prioritize the tasks and activities on your lists. Mark items H, M, and L for high, medium and low priority. Increase your motivation and get a sense of accomplishment by checking off items as you get things done. Your lists help you decide what to do at the moment, what to schedule for later, what to get someone else to do, and what to put off for later.


If you can't stand to face a particular task or activity at the moment, don't worry over your avoidance. Instead, agree with yourself to tackle the difficult or unpleasant item when you feel stronger. Shift temporarily to another priority item. You can get two or three other items done in the time you might have spent fighting yourself over the difficult item.




Schedules allow you to understand and plan your use of time. You won't have to stick to any particular schedule, but having a schedule is important in gaining control over your time. You can vary and alter your schedule as you see fit. The schedule allows you to do so by choice and to understand the consequences of scheduling choices that you make.


Use a daily or weekly planner. Write down appointments, activities, and meetings in an appointment book. Always know what's ahead for the day. Go to sleep knowing you're prepared for tomorrow. You also need a long term planner. Use a monthly chart so that you can always plan ahead.


You can use your schedule and lists in order to organize and prioritize your pre-wedding tasks and activities in the context of competing activities of work, family, etc. You'll be able to use time management techniques to avoid becoming swamped.


Plan for an effective schedule:


·        Allow sufficient time for sleep, a well-balanced diet, and leisure activities.

·        Prioritize.

·        Prepare for activities and tasks ahead of time.

·        Plan to use "dead time."

·        Schedule a weekly review.

·        Be careful not to become a slave to your schedule. Remember, you are in charge of your schedule.

·        When you decide to substitute an activity in your schedule, just be sure to reschedule the original activity or task to a new time.


If there is very little or no blank, uncommitted time in your schedule, you will need to reevaluate how you are allocating your time. You need uncommitted time to allow flexibility, accommodate unanticipated events, tasks and activities.


Evaluating Your Time Management


Analyze how you are spending your time. Knowing how you spend your time should aid you in planning and predicting project completion:


·        How much time have you set aside to meet your pre-wedding goals?

·        Does your time allocation reflect the priority of your pre-wedding and other goals?

·        Can your uncommitted hours be reallocated to meet your pre-wedding and other priorities?

·        Reflect on how you spend your time

·       Are you doing what you planned when you said you would?

·        Know when you are productive

·        Be aware of when you are using your time unproductively, but not relaxing either


If all this time management seems like a lot of work, it is! But it's even more work to live a hectic life without at least some of these techniques. An investment in time management will pay off for you beginning the very first week. Use the time you save to enjoy more time with your partner. And have a great (and more relaxed) wedding!



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Consider spending a bit of your better managed time attending a Marriage Success Training seminar with your partner. MST helps couples handle the increased stress of the pre-wedding period in a much more healthy way, so that they can use the pre-wedding experience to deepen their intimacy--not stress their relationship-- during this special time. Click here to learn about the benefits of MST.


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